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The other day I had a conversation with a career counselor who had recently visited San Francisco. He asked me if I liked living there, and I told him I absolutely loved it. He couldn't believe it. After only 2 days into his trip and with 5 days to go, he felt bored because there was nothing else to do. I was shocked. You just don't understand what it means to live in a place like San Francisco, I thought, let alone California. This...this is the cultural divide that separates people from New York City and people from SF/LA.

18. Allow Yourself to Be Bored
"For many of us, our lives are so filled with stimuli, not to mention responsibilities, that it's almost impossible for us to sit still and do nothing, much less relax - even for a few minutes. A friend of mine said to me, "People are no longer human beings. We should be called human doings."
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Much of our anxiety and inner struggle stems from our busy, overactive minds always needing something to entertain them, something to focus on, and always wondering "What's next?" While we're eating dinner we wonder what's for dessert. While eating dessert, we ponder what we should do afterward. After that evening, it's "What should we do this weekend?" After we've been out, we walk into a house and immediately turn on the television, pick up the phone, open a book, or start cleaning. It's almost as though we're frightened at the thought of not having something to do, even for a minute."
- Richard Carlson, Ph.D

When the sky is clear 
The sun's warmth 
Eased by a gentle breeze
When the air embraces
Sauntering murmurs
You never get scared 
Of not having something to do.




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